Higher Self Esteem And The Ability To Will!

By Nicholas Fin

What determines your daily results? The ultimate power in being able to exercise your will.

Now, some people will refer to will as 'will power' but the word "power" attached to the end of the word will only confuses us when it comes to really understanding what our will truly is.

Most of us think of power as strength, position of authority or control

The word power added to the end of our own will, speaks in terms of effort or an ability that is used, possessed or has been gained.

But this doesn't help us to understand anything!

We understand that somebody can have the ability to do a cartwheel, or a speaker having the ability to produce sounds, or the human eye possessing the ability to see. But to speak of the ability to will, leaves us completely confused to understand how naturally EFFORTLESS our will really is.

Will: To make a reasoned choice, decision and action

In other words, force and effort is not required when using will. As will is being able to choose, decide and act. We have the will to do so, as we have the freedom of choice. However, this does not mean we can do whatever we want. You cannot make someone do something against their own will

A person 'could' make someone take action by making them feel scared or excited enough. But that someone chooses and acts based on their own decisions.

A person that is scared chooses to succumb to fear by their own decisions. Someone that is excited enough decides to act according to their own reasons.

You cannot make someone do something against their own reasons and decisions, because they reason and decide according to what they choose is best for them.

The notion of somebody making someone do something against their will - is ridiculous. When you tell someone to jump they don't automatically do it every time unless they have a reason or have chosen to do so.

We all possess the ability to will and this must not be mistaken with "will power", which means to apply effort to make a simple decision.It doesn't take any effort to use your will. It's just a case of deciding to move your muscles and directing your focus in the directions you want.

Everybody has will - and for the person that has the typical "will power" label, is just someone that has become used to making decisions, and then acting upon them; as a result, they have unleashed the natural power we all possess within us. The so called 'strongest will powered person in the world' has no power of will over you, as we all have the same ability to choose, decide, think and move alike. THE POINT HERE IS THAT WE ARE ALL USING THE SAME ABILITY!

Will is just a case of: will you? Or wont you?

If you will do something; then you will use your will to take action.

Trying to use power or force against your own ability to decide and act is pointless, because you'll only be resisting against your natural ability of body and mind. When you can't be bothered to do something, you are really implying that you can't be bothered to move your own body. If you end up fighting against yourself to take action, relax and start again - to gain the habit of being able to use your will naturally and effortlessly.

Above all, the choices and decisions you make in the present regarding your unbeneficial thoughts and behaviors that you are aware of, are completely your choice if you continue to persist in them. In other words, if you become aware of your negative thoughts or behaviors and continue to do them, that's your own choice.

Are you going to choose a direction that serves you or not?

If you do not make empowering, beneficial decisions in how you want to live your life; then you have already made a decision haven't you?

You have made the decision to be directed and controlled by your environment instead of creating the future you deserve.

Make decisions that benefit your life's higher self esteem.

Determination is directed focus and action, and action is what impacts your daily life.

Act upon your beneficial feelings and decisions. And use effortless will in life to reach the given end of your desired goals.

In a nutshell

1. Will "power" is described as effort and this is WRONG!

2. To will - is to make choices, decide and act

3. Get used to using your will until it naturally becomes effortless

4. Will you - or wont you?
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The Lack Of Adolescent Self Esteem

By Ray Andrew

I want to talk a little about how it affects adolescent self esteem, what are the possible causes and what you can do about it. There are many teenagers that have low self esteem and need help and support from their parents and friends.

The causes

There are different causes, it could be heredity in the case that the parents have it, it can also be education what cultural values and beliefs did you learn at school, some might not be positive and also your environment, what are the people that grow up with you, your parents, your friends, your teachers and anyone else that gave you advice.

Those are the most common factors that affect your adolescent self esteem. So those factors can be positive or negative, if you live in a difficult environment in your house, where your parents fight all the time and don't pay you attention, you might have low self esteem.

If in the school your teachers treat you bad and your friends made fun of you in any way, you might have the problem. Some people are not affected by negative views or criticism but other are very sensitive to them.

Is very important to encourage adolescent self esteem because is the age when they are developing and creating their own personality, they have some emotional problems either with school or with a love and it can affect a lot.

Remedies

If you have a problem of self confidence, its important that you talk to your friends or parents about it, just find someone that respect you and understand you, you will feel better.

There are different things that you can do to improve your self confidence, like doing exercise, meeting new people, learning new skills, reading positive affirmations, helping other people, taking your own decisions and improving your self image.

Most adolescents suffer from low self esteem at some point, but there is a lot that can be done to help them, visit us: self improvement rules
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