Is Your Self-Esteem in Pain?

By Francis Hosein

You may not realize that the thing that you are doing in your life now that is holding you back has to do with a low self esteem.

You may not have given much attention to your low self esteem which is causing you a lot more problems that you thought.

Self-criticism

Do you find yourself criticizing everything you do, before anyone else does it?
Are you very hard on yourself and you can never be perfect?

You allow the critical parent or adult to take over and you feel you can never live up to that standard yet you do not let it go.

Feelings of worthlessness

If your feeling of worthlessness is stopping you from moving on and getting a better life you can take action by getting help to break this cycle within you.

Self doubt

Do you doubt your self and every action you take are you afraid of not being good enough?

This may not be coming only from you as the adult and may have its roots in your pass as a child.

Your self talk

Your parent may have use negative talk to help motivate you except it did not it only made it worst and although your parent may not be ain your life you still carry on where they left off.

Feelings of inadequacy

Feeling inadequate may be the only way you know about behaving and letting go of this part of you is letting go of a friend that you have carried with you since earl childhood.

Allowing abuse

Do you allow others to abuse you, does it feel at least you are getting some attention, or that someone is noticing you.

Being a victim

Is being a victim a role you have known all of your life starting with you feeling like a victim with your caretakers?

Overcoming weakness

Your weakness that have brought you to a low self-esteem does not mean that you are sentence for a life of this you can start working on your weakness by making a list of them and taking actions each day to break the pattern.

You can make your weaknesses your friend by first facing them, talking about them in the open with family and friends, and laughing at them.

The way you look at you

You can look at you and blame yourself, be angry, be a victim or you can look for the little thing that you like about you that makes you special and build on that.

You keep alive this critical part and the moment you give this part its walking papers you allow yourself to live a different life, a life without guilt or blame.

Confusion

Confusion sets in the moment you start to create a new identity because the old you are afraid of dying because it does not know how your new world will be.

Healthy self-esteem

Having a healthy self esteem starts with having a relationship with self, by taking the time to know, love and trust in you first.

Conclusion: Your self esteem may be in pain because you are to busy with what others think and not what is best for you.

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