Love and Self-esteem

By Gloria Hamilten

Do you ever think you should visit someone, like a member of the family, and then decide against it, and then the next time you think about it, quite some time has passed?

You feel bad, so you postpone it again.

Does this sound familiar? Yes, I'm sure it does.

But really, some people do not care about what you have achieved; they just want you to show up.

We do not always need to impress others, to tell them fascinating interesting things that we have being doing.

They just want us to show up and keep company for awhile.

Each visit does not have to be long, rather have more short ones and more frequent ones and just chat; just 'be with them'.

This is what loving is all about, showing up, and this is what feeds self-esteem.

Research findings have shown that successful women in strenuous, traditionally male-dominated corporate environments are physically going bald as they are now producing more testosterone.

Many of these women wear pants suits, very tailored suits and try to fit in to the masculine physical and behavioural 'look' to achieve credibility.

They lose their femininity, forgetting the yin and yang harmony of life, and the importance of loving yourself and being true to yourself to build self-esteem.

If you really want to do something, really, really, really, and there is no apparent physical hindrance, you can: nothing and no one can stop you, not even the 'glass ceiling'.

A different issue exists, whether you want to, but if you want to, you can.

An analogy for self-esteem is like a cattle pen holding in the cattle and the gate is locked.

Open the gate and the cattle will stampede through.

Open the gate to your blockages of self-esteem, and let your self-esteem, stampede out - for all the world to enjoy.

Only you can make these changes, because your self-esteem is not dependent on anything except love.

You are a child of your Creator and are born perfect.

Conditioning has altered your belief in yourself, but you have not changed in your innate perfection.

Remember achievements and events just 'things that we experience', they are not who we are.

To get attached is pointless.

This does not mean that we cannot get excited, that is the emotion we keep, but the event that caused that emotion, that is what we need to detach from.

For example, detach from money, just acknowledge what it can do.

You find people who have this outlook on money, often attract money to them, because they have no attachment it.

For many millionaires, multi-millionaires and billionaires, it is the process of acquiring the money that is exciting and what they can give back to society as a result of it.

I've met a few people, who said that once they had made their first million, they were surprised at how uneventful it really was.

They could not believe it. For so long they had dreamt of that moment, and now that it was here, it was a non-event.

They continued working for the fun of it, and of course amassed more.

Just think of a present you once really, really wanted, and then you received it. There was no more excitement, was there?

Same thing.

And finally.

Love cannot be taught. Love is 'learned' by seeing it demonstrated.

Love needs to be demonstrated - actions speak louder than words.

Gloria M Hamilten is a recognized authority in disciplines within Personal Development and People Skills for Business Professionals, such as Time Management, Negotiation Skills, Developing High-Performance Teams, Assertion Skills, Building International Rapport, Conflict Management and Resolution, Presentation and Platform Skills.

Her studies in Neuro-Linguistic Programming and Psychology have lead to her researching brain disorders such as ADD and its relations.

She has her own training business, and conducts courses for Corporate Organizations, Sporting groups and Tertiary Educational Institutions in Australia.

Her professional experience covers over 30 years of study, research, one-on-one coaching, group coaching, presentations and workshops. Her clientele includes children as well as adults.

Gloria Hamilten has authored the eBook: "Practical Self-Hypnosis for Success" and many Reports and online articles.

Her websites provide a wealth of informative articles and resources on everything within these genres.

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